***Fierce Female Link: Fatness, Femininity and the Media We Deserve


“As I saw more beauty in others’ uniqueness, I began to appreciate my own.”

   ~Sarah Winifred Searle


I’m so pleased to have been recommended to this wonderful woman by my talented friend Kat. Check out Sarah Winifred Searle’s pithy comic titled Fatness, Femininity, and the Media We Deserve.



“It did weird things to my subconscious to grow up fat…”




Choosing to be a Work-at-home Mom

Before starting my family, I was a high school English teacher. I loved being a teacher because I was blessed with challenging and amazing students. But, I left the classroom when my husband and I had agreed that I would stay home with our children while they were young. Of course, we assumed I’d eventually go back to the classroom to teach once our children were themselves all in school full time. Little did we know twenty years ago that our stair-step family was going to end up including seven children in thirteen years. In fact, our youngest just started kindergarten this school year – I  haven’t sat behind a teacher’s desk for almost 20 years. What?! Frankly, I could never go back to teaching now.

I’ve been my own boss for over a decade.  

I can’t even fathom having to work on someone else’s schedule. 


While I thoroughly enjoyed being a SAHM [stay-at-home-mom], after years and years of Barney, Tonka trucks, and Barbie dolls, I was beginning to feel isolated – not to mention a little fuzzy in the brain. It finally came to a point that, when I was honest with myself, I realized that I was tired of having my most decisive duties center around diapers and dinner. On one hand, I reasoned that I didn’t have my precious children just so someone else could “raise” them and enjoy all the fun. I wanted to be the one to take them to school and visit them at lunchtime, go on field trips, volunteer on field days, and have all the grand adventures I enjoyed having with them.

One the other hand, I wanted to generate income — my own income — that I wouldn’t feel guilty spending.  I was in serious need of some adult company. I was starving for camaraderie, especially with like-minded women. I missed being rewarded for a job well done.

Let’s be honest, how many times have you received an award

for finishing four loads of laundry in record time?

I wanted something that was mine. I needed an outlet that, unlike my energetic and curious toddlers, I could really control. While looking over the pros and cons, it dawned on me: Why shouldn’t I enjoy the best of both worlds? Why not work and stay home?  I decided to bite the bullet and go from being a SAHM to a WAHM (work-at-home mom).


I’d be a lying if I reported that the transition was easy. Being the owner of your own business can be tough stuff because, let’s face it, the buck really does stop with you. While I can rejoice in my successes, whenever the profits are lean, I have no one to blame but myself. That can be a rude awakening.



My littlest has grown up in the biz.

The good news is that with a little ingenuity, creativity, and a lot of persistence, I saw my business take flight. I could see my successes, both small and big, and I could take pride in a job well done. And, because my family has always come first, I enjoy the flexibility that being my own boss affords. I am in control of my work schedule — it revolves around my family’s needs instead of my family having to work around a supervisor’s schedule. If I want to take a day off, I do. If I feel like giving myself a raise, I batton down and get it done. Yay! I’m in control. At least, that’s what I tell myself.

One of the biggest perks has been letting my family take part in parts of business. It gives the young ones a sense of accomplishment (not to mention extra spending money) and pride — in themselves and in their mom. Which, I must admit, is a real joy for me, too!


My teens love Avon’s mark. products and advertise them whenever possible.

If you’re considering making the move, I say Go For It! Of course, you’ll want to do your research first and be sure to speak with a seasoned independent representative of the company that will give you the good, the bad, and indifferent of their experience. If they tell you everything smells like roses and rainbows or that you’re going to be rollin’ in dough practically overnight … I’ll bet you dollars to doughnuts they’re flat out lying to you. If they tell you the company sucks and they lost their entire investment, they may not have really worked their business professionally. In my experience, hobbies cost money. So at least find someone who’s happy with their company and willing to share their own formula for success.

Best wishes to you in all you strive to achieve!

———– XOXOXO ———-

Of course, if you’d like to learn more about the Avon opportunity, visit or contact me at micki.avonmom(at)

Farewell to the Charismatic Chameleon

David Bowie was the consummate performer. Whether on stage, screen, or in the pages of Vogue, his chameleon-like ability to transform and reinvent himself made this private man a legend that was larger than life. Forever a champion of the underdog, Bowie implored listeners to “turn and face the strange.”  His androgynous charm attracted admirers of all creeds, sexes and styles; his vast and undeniable talent won over the mainstream; and, freaks across the world identified with his outrageous vulnerability.


David Bowie first made his way into my heart and onto my bedroom walls in the 80s after I witnessed his performance as the beautifully tragic David Blaylock in The Hunger. It came as a great surprise to me then that he’d been a popular musician and even my own mom was familiar with this beautiful hunk of man. Wait, what? David Bowie was already a star? A rock star? Huh. I remember being very happy to know that I wasn’t the only one who saw the genius in him.

I then witnessed his portrayal as Major Jack Celliers in Merry Christmas Mr. Lawrence, which to this day is by far my favorite performance, and I was suddenly a forever fan. I don’t remember much about my first viewing of the film The Man Who Fell to Earth. All I remember is that I was pretty bored until … David Bowie’s nekkid! Thanks to some teen posterzine, I learned that David Bowie actually starred on Broadway. Again, I was pleased to know that people understood he was a seriously talented actor. He then immortalized Jareth the Goblin King in Labyrinth. As far as I was concerned, David Bowie would always be an actor who sang on the side. 

bowie tribute acting

David Bowie. Actor.

Call me crazy, but I’m only a lukewarm fan of his music. I have only a handful of songs that I know by heart and I only saw him perform once in concert during the Glass Spider tour. All I can say is that the man really knew how to put on a show. I was almost as fascinated by his audience as I was by him. I was with a group of screaming teens but we were surrounded by frightening and fabulous queens, aging hippies smoking pot, and a lot of very attractive and fashionable people. The dichotomy was staggering, but we were all just David Bowie fans hanging out enjoying the time of our lives.

If my children (who have grown up with a cinephilic mother watching Labyrinth, Zoolander, and The Prestige) and tumblr are any indication, David Bowie has an entire new generation of adoring followers. The Goblin King lives on.

David Bowie’s page.

Even Cool Girls Wear Pearls

Your style doesn’t have to be a feminist manifesto, but wouldn’t that be fun? This season’s hottest accessory is the pearl. But what if your style doesn’t usually call for something so quite so … dainty? You don’t have to be June Cleaver or Betty Draper to caress your neck with one of the world’s most feminine accessories.

Pearls of the Past

Prim , Proper, and Pretty

Today’s woman wears what she wants. And if that means amping up your denim for a daring dinner date or adding a little luxury to your badass leather look … go for it!

Soften the edge without apology.

Soften the edge without apology.

You’re already HOT. So, why not wear this season’s hottest accessory? Wear ’em your way and create a fashion manifesto that’s all your own.


StyleSwap™ Luminous Pearlesque Necklace Set

Pearlesque Perfection

StyleSwap™ Luminous Pearlesque Necklace Set

Interchangeable Necklace set with 3 great looks:

  • Double strand necklace with faux clear stones and faux pearls stationed along a silvertone chain
  • Triple strand of faux pearls on silvertone chain

Or combine both necklaces for rows of pearlesque perfection. Strands are attached by S hooks to the main chain which allows for easy removal.

  • Necklace: 16 1/2” L with Lobster Claw clasp
  • Extender: 3 1/2” L

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Luminous Pearlesque 3 Piece Gift Set

Luminous Pearlesque 3 Piece Gift Set

Silvertone 3 piece gift set that includes faux pearl necklace, faux pearl stretch-style bracelet and faux pearl stud earrings.

  • Necklace: 16 1/2″ L with Lobster Claw clasp
  • Bracelet: 7” L (stretch bracelet)
  • Earrings: Pierced, with Post and Earnut clutch

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Luminous Pearlesque Double Wrap Watch

Silvertone faux pearl double wrap watch with oval face.

  • Band: 16 1/2” L unwrapped, with foldover clasp
  • Face without casing: Approx. 9/32” x 25/32”
  • Battery: Replaceable SR626SW
  • Movement: Quartz-PC21J

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Keepin’ it Real


Big & False Lash Volume Mascara

Sweep on from root to tip to double the volume for more glamourous lashes. The exclusively designed brush follows the natural curve of your eye to get to the root of your lash line. Lasts all day. Clump-smudge-, flake-free. Sweat- and waterproof. Hypoallergenic. Suitable for contact lens wearers. Rated 4.6 out of 5 stars by users — that’s damnear perfect!

Need further proof? Check this out…



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Brown Black 177-478
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Fabulous in a Flash: Avon Nail Art Press-On Nails

Life is full of surprises and I believe in being prepared! Invited to a last minute dinner engagement? Running late for your luncheon with friends? No time to run to the salon? No worries. With Avon Nail Art Press-on Nails, you’re quickly, effortlessly, and so beautifully covered. They’re so simple to apply in only three easy steps, you can spice up any outfit in a flash!

My daughter Grace applied her nails in less than ten minutes, from start to fabulous.

My daughter Grace applied her nails in less than ten minutes, from start to fabulous finish.

I’ve worn these several times and really like them alot. They’re perfect for a quick “gussy-up” for a party or date-night. Mine lasted about four days (even through hair washing!) before I peeled them off myself. Trust me, long nails aren’t practical for a mom of many like me. I keep several sets on hand for special occasions. The best part? These convenient accessories are much less expensive and time consuming than salon nails … and they’re the perfect attractive adornments to dress up any outfit!


1.  Select a Press-On Nail for each finger (measuring side-to-side across nail). Peel off the protective film.


2.  Press firmly in the middle and then on both sides of each nail.


3.  Smooth and shape with Avon Nail Emery Board as desired.



Easy to apply. Won’t chip, scuff or fade. 24 press-on nails. Removes easily with soap and warm water. These handy attachments are on sale now at

Fall Trend: Pampered in Pearls

The look of pearls gets a subtle makeover – perfect for adding a feminine touch to any outfit.

This fall, the Nouveau Victorian fantasy fashions will be showcased on women of style across the beauty board. Higher necklines, velvet accents, and full-on lace will be leading the fashion movement. Leave it to the world’s fashion moguls to re-imagine, not decades past, but centuries past, with many a fresh new bent … bringing the femininity of yesteryear into the current vogue of this year’s hyper-femme trends. Make no mistake, the look may say Yes, I’m pampered and I like it that way, but the wearer is the one pampering herself with luxe looks of fearless femininity.

Marc Jacobs; Ferragamo; Oscar de la Renta; Stella McCartney

And, which accessory is more unapologetically feminine than pearls?

High-fashion jewelry designers complement this Fall’s hyper-femme designs with lots of pearls for trendy girls. Whether they be understated, overstated, authentic, or faux, pearls will be caressing the breasts, necks, and lobes of fashion forward women everywhere. Always on trend, Avon caters to the luxe look of Neo-Victorian beauty with a posh assortment of stylish accessories featuring the look of polished pearls. My personal faves are featured below.


Get the Look

Affordable Elegance from AVON

Introducing the Pearlesque Spectacular line from Avon.

Feminine. Affordable. Elegant.


Pearlesque Spectacular Long Cluster Necklace

Avon’s Pearlesque Spectacular Long Cluster Necklace $19.99 at

Pearlesque Spectacular Long Cluster Necklace. Goldtone pearlesque cluster necklace featuring a center cream-colored pearl surrounded by beautiful black diamond and pink colored faux stones to add depth and dimension.


Pearlesque Spectacular Bracelet.

Pearlesque Spectacular Bracelet $19.99 at

Pearlesque Spectacular Bracelet. Goldtone curb chain bracelet with a cluster of faux faceted stones in light rose and black faceted stones with a perfect faux pearl at the center.


Pearlesque Spectacular Drop Earrings

Pearlesque Spectacular Drop Earrings $15.99 at

Pearlesque Spectacular Drop Earrings. Goldtone drop earrings with faux faceted stones in black diamond and rose colors with a round faux pearl. The earrings have a round rose-colored stone at the top, a round faux pearl is attached. There are two black diamond colored teardrop stones attached to the pearl and a rose-colored teardrop stone at the bottom of the earrings which adds length and dimension.

I welcome your comments and questions about the jewelry featured herein. Please contact me at micki[dot]avonmom[at]gmail[dot]com or visit my official AVON eStore at for more information.

Madam C. J. Walker: “I got my start by giving myself a start!”


Madam C. J. Walker made her mark in the beauty industry and the world by developing and marketing a line of beauty and hair products for black women under the company she founded, Madam C.J. Walker Manufacturing Company. Any one of the obstacles she faced in her lifetime would be enough to showcase this esteemable woman’s strength and fortitude; but the fact that she faced enormous adversity, makes her story and her achievements all the more remarkable.

She was born Sarah Breedlove in December 1867, the first of her family to be born into freedom subsequent to the Emancipation Proclamation. Orphaned by the age of seven, she married at the age of 14, gave birth to her daughter at 17, and was widowed at the tender age of 20.  Mme. Walker refused the notion that either she or her child would be victims of circumstance.

She was determined to make a better life for herself and her little girl. Under the tutelage of her brothers, who owned and operated a barbershop, she learned about hair care and business management. She furthered her business and hair care acumen while selling hair products for a woman who would later become a fierce competitor.

With the true spirit of an entrepreneur, and because she herself suffered with a scalp disease, she developed her own line of hair “curatives” designed especially for women of color in 1906. Her efforts paid off in such a grand way that she began recruiting other women to work for her — training them in the art of business, personal development, and social awareness. In 1914, she declared “I am endeavoring to provide employment for hundreds of women of my race.”

By the time of her death in 1919, Madam C.J. Walker had made a great name for herself as a business woman, a philanthropist, and as the first female self-made millionaire in America.

For further reading about this amazing woman, see’s Madam C.J. Walker’s Secrets to Success

Nope, That’s Not a Compliment

As I tell my children, “THINK before you speak. Is what you’re about to say True? Helpful? Inspirational? Is it Necessary? And, is it Kind? If not, keep your pie-hole shut.”

Dances With Fat

Reality and PerceptionFat people get a lot of negative messages about our bodies every day. One way to fight this is to change the number of positive messages. Unfortunately I’ve found that some people don’t know the difference between an authentic compliment, and saying something really offensive. It’s cool though, I’m here to help.

Allow me to elucidate using personal experience from a meeting to which I wore a sleeveless shirt and a skirt (and where I typically wear pants):

“Look at you, rocking a dress!” (said positively, no hint of sarcasm).

Compliment.  Well done. (Yes, it’s technically a skirt and not a dress, but that’s not important right now.)

Oh (makes pensive face), I didn’t think you wore dresses.  I actually think pants suit you better.”

Nope, not a compliment.  Not a thing to say at all really.  Maybe should have used your inner monologue on this one.


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