It’s just endearment, Darlin’.

I don’t know why; maybe it’s because I’m from the South where dur’near everybody calls each other Darlin, Honey, Buddy or some other such term of endearment, but I’m constantly taken aback by people* who get their knickers in a twist when I call them Sweetpea or Punkinshell or what-have-you. What’s wrong with showin’ a lil’ love?

I’ve noticed that these are usually the same people* who get all rankled when I use the term “ma’am.”

Me: “Yes, ma’am.”

Random Woman: “Did you just call me ‘ma’am’???”

“Yes, ma’am.”

“Don’t call me ‘ma’am.’ My gawd, I’m not that old. How old do you think I am? Really!”

“It’s just a sign of respect.”


“So, where are you from?”

I really don’t understand the problem with using terms of endearment. I don’t even think I do it on purpose. I just can’t help it. Offense is certainly never my initial intention. I think I’m just being Southern. And, polite. I write the way I talk, so I’ll even do it when I’m writing to people. It just feels wrong, otherwise. In fact, it seems almost mean to me to just abruptly end a sentence. Is this a Southern thing? A Texan thing? A Mom thing? ‘Cause I’m all three, and it’s really hard to teach an old dog new tricks.


Where do you stand on the use of these terms? I’m eager to know … Puddin’cup.

*By people I mean women cuz the guys don’t seem to give a hoot what you call ’em as long as you don’t call ’em late for supper.


15 thoughts on “It’s just endearment, Darlin’.

  1. You raised an interesting question. It’ s all about what what we grew up with I think — that’s what influences a reaction but it doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong. Using terms of endearment for strangers has a warm feel — I grew up in a cooler environment where that was saved for family.


  2. I guess because I’m from the South it doesn’t bother me. Truth be known, I’m flattered when someone refers to me as Sweetie or Darlin’. When students said “Yes, Ma’am” or “No, Ma’am”, it could get them out of a heap of trouble. I consider it a sign of respect, not a consideration of age.

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  3. Well, for me it’s respect if I’m called Ma’am, I take no offence; but I’ve met a single (old) lady (couldn’t have been more than 30) who teared up because I said, “How may I help you, Madam.” Oh! She made a scene. Some women are really sensitive.

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    • And, it makes me sad that women should feel defensive around other women. We should all be sticking together and supporting one another, for goodness’ sake. You can call me ma’am any ol’ time, Ma’am. =0)

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  4. I lol’d at the ma’am thing. I’m from the Northeast where people aren’t exactly known for politeness. I remember the first time someone called me ma’am, and thought “oh, crap…I’m old!”, then I moved to SC and it was commonplace. I sorta like it, and of course I took no offense to being called punkinshell. It made me giggle 😉

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